Friday, December 30, 2016
I thought I used to be a good mom. This weekend made me feel like a failure! Having 8 boys and foster baby being a boy makes #9 makes me shake my head often! Especially since growing up I constantly mentioned that I had four big brothers! I always felt like it was such a big deal. When I had baby boy number five I was in shock!
My three youngest boys are typical boys but add to that five big brothers with lots of "character" and big ideas of what is funny (aka rude).
This weekend was one of the worst with the boys or maybe it is the lack of sleep I have had with a five week old who is up every 3 hours.
It started Friday after mass and school, the house was (is) a mess and the weather was hot and sticky. The boys were bouncing off the walls and going crazy all day. My 9 year old was bored (not allowed) and sitting in the kitchen messing with the phone while I made dinner. As he dialed 911-23 he hung up and ran to the bathroom. Phone rings...no one could get it and I was knee deep in chicken. About 5 minutes goes by and 2 very friendly police officers knock on the door to make sure everything was all right. Of course I knew what happened the minute I saw the police what had happened.
After I explained to the very kind officer what happened, I made sure to explain to my son with the officers standing there, how because of what he did the officers were taken away from their duty!
Lord Bless and protect my children!
+JMJ+ Thy will be done!!!
Monday, September 12, 2016
My Daughter's friend interviewed me for this article...she just re-posted it so I thought I would share:
Not that I had anything against homeschooling; I knew a wonderful homeschooling family growing up, the Fatzingers, but it was never something I had considered for my family.
I always assumed our children would attend Catholic school like my husband and I had done.
However, during a discussion at a mother’s group of our children’s education prospects and the actual cost of private school, homeschooling entered the radar for the first time for my family. I spent the next year or so anxiously pondering my son’s education until I heard the Holy Spirit tell me while I was praying the rosary one day to just try it.
My husband and I figured preschool was the best time to “try it” because it’s not required in our state and, like I tell everyone who asks, even if it’s an epic failure, it won’t scar my child for life; it is only preschool after all.
So here we are. We are venturing into the world of homeschooling with our son and using the Seton preschool curriculum.
We chose Seton because I immediately fell in love with Seton’s Early Literacy for Young Catholics Pre-K Activity Book, and a woman in my mother’s group has been using Seton for years with great success.
Knowing I had to spiritually prepare myself for this year-long battle, I turned to Sam Fatzinger for her words of wisdom and advice. When I was growing up, she was a friend of my parents’ while her older kids were the same age as my siblings and me.
She offered four spiritual habits she has used through the years that have already helped me as I start this adventure:
1. Load up on graces.While packing the car with many young kids early in the morning to attend daily Mass was a challenge, Sam knew the graces would be worth it.
“I have been going to daily Mass since I was 16,” she said. “It has been a source of strength and wisdom for me ever since. Any big or small decision I have needed to make has come from the grace I receive from the Eucharist.”
Going to Mass is a little easier now with older kids able to babysit, but even when she has to schlep everyone with her, she knows it’s good for her and her family. Plus, it’s part of their religion curriculum, so “Check! One class done for the day,” she said.
Another way Sam covers herself with graces is by attending a silent retreat once a year. She never knows what challenges the upcoming year will bring, so it’s important for her to devote an entire weekend to prayer.
“During that retreat, God pours down all the graces I’ll need to get me through the year,” she said.
2. Draw close to the saints.Sam said she used to pray a novena leading up the first day of school, but now she finds herself praying to the saints constantly. For example, if she sees one child struggling, she’ll pray through that child’s patron saint for him. St. John Bosco, St. John Vianney, St. Therese of Lisieux, St. Martha and St. Joseph are other particular favorites.
“I think the saints are sitting up there just waiting for us to ask for their help,” Sam said.
In January, she has each child pick a saint at random through the website SaintsNameGenerator.com, and she encourages them to learn about and grow closer to the saint throughout the year.
They used to celebrate the kids’ feast days in a big way, but between that, birthdays, Baptism days and other big occasions, “we were eating cake every day,” she said. However, even without the big celebrations, dedication to the saints is a big part of their daily lives.
3. Pray throughout the day.Sam laughs when, upon seeing a candle lit in the house, her children ask, “Who’s in labor?”
She’s gotten in the habit through the years to light a candle as a reminder to pray for a specific intention throughout the day, and yes, most of the time it’s for a woman in labor. She and her friends also often make an agreement, when some of them are going through a hard time, to set their kitchen timer every hour on the hour and say a quick prayer for the friend.
She prays the Angelus at noon with her kids (“whoever’s in earshot,” she said) and she puts on a Divine Mercy YouTube video at 3 p.m. for her kids to watch and for her to overhear while she gets ready for dinner.
“Every time things start to get crazy in the house, I think, OK, when was the last time I went to confession? Did I say my morning prayer today? Did I have quiet time today? Have I taken time for spiritual reading? Have we said a family rosary recently? When those are off, that’s when school falls apart,” Sam said.
4. Be confident in your vocation.For Sam, homeschooling is not a 9-month job during the year; it’s an ongoing part of her vocation as a mother and something she always knew she was called to do even when it required sacrifice.
Having 13 kids in 23 years and homeschooling them on one person’s salary is truly a radical choice in today’s world. Sam laughed when she said one of her daughters knows the family is rich now because they buy paper towels, showing that “they went without so much for so long,” she said.
However, even though they went without some things, they were also given unexpected gifts.
“No one said, when we said ‘yes’ to being open to life 26 years ago, that in 1994, someone will give you a car, and you’ll get this awesome deal on a Cape Cod. In 1999, you’re going to get this huge foreclosure of a house and get it for a steal. In 2001, someone will put $500 on your doorstep,” she said.
“God doesn’t tell you that. He just says, ‘Trust me, have faith, be open to life, be open to what I have in store for you.’”
Tuesday, September 6, 2016
First Day of school...
Pretty funny that I have been homeschooling for 21 years! Each year with its different challenges and exciting changes. Many, many years in the beginning had a new baby or a tired pregnant mommy, but we made it through each year! I have successfully graduated my seven oldest!
Child #1 graduated with her masters at age 21, debt free and is now married, expecting baby #2 and is an evening hospital social worker. Child #2 graduated debt free and is now a FOCUS Catholic Missionary in Nebraska, getting married in November. Child #3 graduated debt free and is now in his last year of Physical Therapy School getting his doctorate degree and unfortunately had to take a loan. Child #4 graduated last year debt free and is now teaching high school math. Child #5 is a senior who is graduating debt free this May. Child #6 is a sophomore at the Community College and planning to transfer next Fall. Child #7 is a freshman in Comm. College. Child #8 is in 10th grade, #9 is 8th grade, they go to a two day Tutorial. The last four are 6th, 4th, 2nd. and pre K! Our family has been blessed with a five week old foster baby that we got four weeks ago from an agency called SAFE FAMILIES .
Each year when my college kids get their grades back I send a message to my younger homeschool mom friends saying, "See it works!!! By the grace of God they must of learned something all those crazy pregnant, diaper changing, nursing years!!! "
God always blesses us with so many graces we just have to trust in His wisdom to overcome the obstacles and know He is in control! A wise priest gave me a fantastic penance this summer..."PRAY LIKE MARY, SO YOU CAN WORK LIKE MARTHA!" love that advice and plan to try to use it always!
Hope you are having a good new school year! Pray for all families dealing with change and anxiety!
THY WILL BE DONE!!!+JMJ+
Friday, August 12, 2016
Saturday, July 23, 2016
Best Fried Rice ever!
Dice up the following and set aside.
- 1 small onion
- 2 carrots
- 2 celery stalks
In a small bowl scramble 2 eggs. I push the cooked vegetables to one side of the pan and pour the eggs in and scramble.
Next add your cooked rice. Mix well. Add the following spices:
- 1 to 2 Tablespoons of sugar, depending on how sweet you like it
- 1 Tablespoon garlic powder
- 1 teaspoons ginger powder
- crushed red peppers
- about 2 tablespoons of soy sauce. Add a little more if rice seems too dry. Add diced meat or shrimp if making this as a main dish.
- Mix everything well and then add about a cup of frozen peas. 2 cups of shredded cabbage and 2 green onions diced. Cover and steam on low until cabbage and peas are cooked, about 10 minutes.
The Mass is the best means we have:
1. To render God the highest form of worship.
2. To thank Him for all His blessings.
3. To make reparation for all our sins.
4. To obtain all the blessings we desire.
5. To release souls from purgatory and to shorten our own time there.
6. To preserve us from all dangers to soul and body.
7. To be consoled at the hour of death, for at that moment their memory will be our greatest consolation.
8. To intercede for us at the Judgment Seat of God.
9. To bring down God's blessings; therefore, try to assist at Mass every day, or as often as possible, and, of course, on Sundays.
10. To better understand the sublimity of the Passion of Christ, and, therefore, to increase our love for Him.
- 10. Daily Mass will help put order in your homeschool.
- 9. Going to daily Mass teaches self-discipline.
- 8. Your children will have more opportunity to serve.
- 7. The repetition of attending daily Mass makes the Liturgy something familiar and loved.
- 6. Daily Mass is the perfect way to learn about the saints.
- 5. In 3 years of going to daily Mass, we will have read (almost) the entire Bible!
- 4. We can offer up our Mass for loved ones — living or deceased.
- 3. We are giving our children a foundation for life.
- 2. Daily Mass gives us the armor we and our children need to fight this earthy battle.
- 1. The more we attend Mass, the holier we will become!\
1. For thy salvation God the Father sends His beloved Son down from heaven.
2. For thy salvation the Holy Spirit changes bread and wine into the true body and blood of Christ.
3. For thy sake the Son of God comes down from heaven and conceals Himself under the form of the sacred host.
4. He even abases Himself to such an extent as to be present in the minutest particle of the sacred host.
5. For thy salvation He renews the saving mystery of the incarnation.
6. For thy salvation He is born anew into the world in a mystic manner whenever holy Mass is celebrated.
7. For thy salvation He performs upon the altar the same acts of worship that He performed when on earth.
8. For thy salvation He renews His bitter passion in order that thou mayest participate in it.
9. For thy salvation He mystically renews His death, and sacrifices for Thee His precious life.
10. For thy salvation He sheds His blood in a mystic manner, and offers it up for thee to the Divine Majesty.
11. With this precious blood He sprinkles thy soul and purifies it from every stain.
12. For thee Christ offers Himself as a true burnt-offering, and renders to the God-head the supreme honor which is its due.
13. By offering this act of worship to God thou dost make reparation for the glory which thou hast failed to give Him.
14. For thee Christ offers Himself to God as a sacrifice of praise, thus atoning for thy omissions in praising His holy name.
15. By offering to God this oblation which Christ offers thou givest Him greater praise than do the holy angels.
16. For thee Christ offers Himself as a perfect sacrifice of thanksgiving, making compensation for all failures on thy part to render thanks.
17. By offering to God Christ's act of thanksgiving thou dost make ample acknowledgment of all the benefits He had bestowed on thee.
18. For thee Christ offers Himself as the all-powerful victim, reconciling thee to the God Whom thou hast offended.
19. He pardons thee all thy venial sins, provided thou art firmly resolved to forsake them.
20. He also makes reparation for many of thy sins of omission, when thou didst leave undone the good thou mightest have done.
21. He removes many of the imperfections attached to thy good deeds.
22. He forgives thee the sins, unknown or forgotten, which thou hast never mentioned in confession.
23. He offers Himself as a victim to make satisfaction for a part at least of thy debts and transgressions.
24. Each time thou hearest Mass thou canst do more to pay the penalty due to thy sins than by the severest work of penance.
25. Christ places to thy credit a portion of His merits, which thou mayest offer to God the Father in expiation of thy offenses.
26. For thee Christ offers Himself as the most efficacious peace-offering, interceding for thee as earnestly as He interceded for His enemies on the cross.
27. His precious blood pleads for thee in words as countless as the drops which issued from His sacred veins.
28. Each of the adorable wounds His sacred body bore is a voice calling aloud for mercy for thee.
29. For the sake of this propitiatory victim the petitions proffered during Mass will be granted far sooner than those that are proffered at other times.
30. Never canst thou pray so well as whilst present at Mass.
31. This is so because Christ unites His prayers to thine, and offers them to His heavenly Father.
32. He aquaints Him with thy needs and the dangers to which thou art exposed, and makes thy eternal salvation His particular concern.
33. The angels also, who are present, plead for thee, and present thy poor prayers before the throne of God.
34. On thy behalf the priest says Mass by virtue of which the evil enemy will not be suffered to approach thee.
35. For thee and for thy everlasting salvation he says Mass, and offers that holy sacrifice to God Almighty.
36. When thou hearest Mass, thou art thyself in spirit a priest, empowered by Christ to offer the Mass both for thyself and others.
37. By offering this holy sacrifice thou dost present to the Blessed Trinity the most acceptable of all oblations.
38. Thou dost offer an oblation precious indeed, of greater value than all things in heaven and earth.
39. Thou dost offer an oblation precious indeed, for it is none other than God himself.
40. By this sacrifice thou dost honor God as He alone is worthy to be honored.
41. By this sacrifice thou dost give infinite satisfaction to the most Holy Trinity.
42. Thou mayest present this glorious oblation as thine own gift, for Christ Himself gave it unto thee.
43. When thou hearest Mass aright, thou dost perform an act of highest worship.
44. By hearing Mass thou dost pay the most profound reverence, the most loyal homage, to the sacred humanity of Our Lord.
45. It is the best means whereby to venerate the passion of Christ, and obtain a share in its fruits.
46. It is also the best means of venerating the Blessed Mother of God, and increasing her joy.
47. By hearing Mass thou canst give greater honor to the angels and saints than by reciting many prayers.
48. By hearing Mass devoutly thou canst also enrich thy soul more than by aught else in the world.
49. For in this act thou dost perform a good work of the highest value.
50. It is a signal exercise of pure faith, which will receive a great reward.
51. When thou dost bow down before the sacred host and the sacred chalice, thou dost perform a supreme act of adoration.
52. For each time thou dost gaze reverently upon the sacred host thou wilt receive a recompense from heaven.
53. Each time thou dost smite thy breast with compunction some of thy sins are remitted to thee.
54. If thou hearest Mass in a state of mortal sin, God offers thee the grace of conversion.
55. If thou hearest Mass in a state of grace, God gives thee an augmentation of grace.
56. In holy Mass thou dost spiritually eat the flesh of Christ, and drink His blood.
57. Thou art privileged to behold with thine eyes Christ hidden under the sacramental veil, and to be beheld by Him.
58. Thou dost receive the priest's benediction, which is confirmed by Christ in heaven.
59. Through thy diligence in hearing Mass thou wilt also obtain corporal and temporal blessings.
60. Furthermore, thou wilt be preserved from many misfortunes that would otherwise befall thee.
61. Thou wilt also be strengthened against temptations which would otherwise have vanquished thee.
62. Holy Mass will also be to thee a means of obtaining the grace of a holy death.
63. The love thou hast shown for Holy Mass wilt secure for thee the special succor of angels and saints in thy last moments.
64. The remembrance of the Masses heard in thy life time will be a sweet solace to thee in the hour of death, and inspire thee with confidence in the divine mercy.
65. They will not be forgotten when thou dost stand before the strict Judge and will incline Him to show thee favor.
66. Thou needest not fear a long and terrible purgatory if thou hast already to a great extent atoned for thy sins by frequently assisting at Holy Mass.
67. One Mass devoutly heard will do more to mitigate the pains of purgatory than any act of penance, however difficult of performance.
68. One Mass in thy lifetime will be of greater service to thee than many said for thee after death.
69. Thou wilt attain a high place in heaven, which will be thine to all eternity.
70. Thy felicity in heaven will, moreover, be increased by every Mass thou hearest on earth.
71. No prayers offered for thy friends will be as efficacious as a single Mass heard and offered on their behalf.
72. Thou canst amply recompense all thy benefactors by hearing Mass for their intention.
73. The best help, the greatest consolation, thou canst afford the afflicted, the sick, the dying, is to hear Mass for them.
74. By this same means thou canst even obtain for sinners the grace of conversion.
75. Thou canst also earn for all faithful Christians saving and salutary graces.
76. For the suffering souls in purgatory thou canst procure abundant refreshment.
77. And if it is not within thy power to have Mass said for thy departed friends thou canst by devout assistance at the holy sacrifice release them from the tormenting flames.
Saints comments about the power of mass:
Any time my family life falls apart, I know it's time to get to confession and get the kids back to daily mass. Dear Lord help me to be a good and holy mom...and help my children love daily mass and never commit a mortal sin!